How To Stop Letting Little Things In Life Piss You Off

In: Advice|Lifestyle By: Brian Armstrong

8 Jan 2008

Have you ever seen someone complain about a parking ticket as if it’s the end of the world?

Have you been cut off in traffic and let it ruin your whole day?

How many times have you let your experience at the airport (crying baby, delayed flight, missing luggage) be the first thing you bring up in conversations with friends?

I want you to repeat after me: “these things happen”.

We all have these types of events come up in life, but successful people just go on as if nothing has happened, and unsuccessful people let it derail them.

The next time you feel a surge of anger coming on over an insignificant event in your life, go over these points in your head:

You look like an idiot
There is no polite way to put this. When others around you see you COMPLETELY lose it over the dent in your car door, they aren’t feeling sorry for you and wondering how they can help. They are subconsciously judging you and coming to one inescapable conclusion: you aren’t in control of your life.

If something this small throws you off, imagine how you’d react to a REAL problem in life. Overreacting tells the people around you that you can’t be trusted to deal with important issues. You’re not the goto guy (or gal) when they’re in need, because you can’t even take care of yourself.

The only person you’re hurting is yourself
Did you ever realize that when you get upset at someone who cuts you off in traffic, they generally never even know? Usually they speed off never the wiser to your insults and gestures. By getting angry, you’re doing zero harm to them while simultaneously hurting yourself even more. That doesn’t make much sense, and is a waste of your precious time and energy.

Now heres the zinger. What if that person purposely WANTED to upset you (they have some subconscious need to pick on others, they’re parents didn’t love them enough, etc)? Well then they are getting the exact reaction they wanted, and you’re playing right into they hands.

If you really want to mess with someone who flips you off in traffic, try smiling and waving back, and watch the confused look on their face. With time, you can even learn to appreciate and love these people (bizarre I know) for the important role they serve in life: helping to remind you how NOT to live. Don’t judge them, they are just at a different point in understanding life.
Find something to be grateful about
So you’re sitting there in rush hour traffic about ready to tear your hair out. Train yourself to go right into gratitude, and start listing what you’re grateful for and what good can come from this situation.

Maybe its the perfect time to make a phone call to a loved one you’ve been putting off. Maybe you can get some “reading” done on that audio book you’re listening to and be grateful for the chance to learn something new. Maybe its just a chance to put things in perspective and marvel at how far technology has come. After all, primitive mankind would have had to walk this distance. You get to SIT in an air conditioned chair barely pushing the accelerator.

There is something good in every situation, and you can find it. Even if its just that you’re grateful for the chance to practice being grateful.

Unsuccessful people are REACTIVE. They are a leaf blowing in the wind, the world is happening around them, and they are just trying to stay alive. When something bad happens, someone did it TO them and they take it personally. They get caught up in the victim mentality and take every opportunity to let people know it.

Successful people, on the other hand, are PROACTIVE. They make things happen in life and are on a mission. And by golly, they aren’t going to let some silly parking ticket take them off their mission. Instead, they say to themselves “these things happen” and move on to more important tasks.

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230 Responses

Irsh

May 2nd, 2011 at 8:15 am

Thanks a ton! I searched for “why I feel so ignored” and found the answer on your site. I now know that I was picking everything in the way and so I am bound to be ignored at some point.

I have been a successful entrepreneur but that contradicts with the fact that I take all small and big things in my way. I over-react. I do keep my calm when it comes to my employees not behaving well or if a client has cancelled a project or if my Project manager has some issues with a long-term client etc.

But when it comes to my personal life, I feel I over-react. I hate it when someone ignores me and do not answer my question, for whatever reason she has had. I hate it when they dont take my thoughts seriously. I feel I am so good and successful with what I do, how come someone can just ignore me or prove me wrong with what I say!

I gladly accept the above as my ego! and I have to work on it.

I do need suggestions from you wonderful peoples here. and I definitely will keep my calm while reading your suggestions :) am a changed man now. Thanks B. thank you everyone.

Charlotte Clarke

May 2nd, 2011 at 9:08 am

Thanks a lot for this. I’ve been trying to re-condition my emotional responses in this direction for a while – I used to let those tiny things absolutely rule my life. However, sometimes I can feel myself slipping back into my old ways and I need a boost to keep me on track and keep ME in control of my emotions, not the other way round. A lot of sites like this just say the same old thing, but you’ve added some really good perspectives here that I haven’t seen elsewhere yet. Good job, and thanks again!

Anthony Cross

May 2nd, 2011 at 2:30 pm

Congratulations, Brian. I found your website wise. Good work, mate.

brent inman

December 12th, 2011 at 4:33 pm

this website helps alot!:)

Holly

May 4th, 2011 at 3:58 pm

Recently my temper has flared over the simplest of events..Stress makes it easier to react to certain scenarios, especially if its a scenario you have been dealing with your entire life..I.E living with a family member who has schizophrenia. This individual knows how to press my buttons, and it has come to a point where just looking at them hurts. I know “these things happen” to several people. But everyday? Its hard to recognize that this family member is suffering too, if not worse. How does one cope with this?

CJ Cruz

August 3rd, 2011 at 8:11 pm

First, great advice, Brian! It really helped me today. Thanks.
Second, Holly, you might look into the book Gut and Psychology Syndrome by Dr. Natasha Campbell-McBride. I’m reading it now and there is a lot of very good information that is not commonly understood even by MD’s. I know from experience–years of researching, experimenting, trial and error that at least some of what she has to say is right on the mark.

BT White

September 3rd, 2011 at 7:47 am

Or try separating from that person completely. No matter what name you want to give their “condition”, it does not justify them willfully disrupting your life, unless you were the one who caused them to be this through poor parenting, for instance, or having a bad relationship with your spouse while raising them. If that’s the case, then you reap what you sew.

Amy

October 23rd, 2011 at 5:11 am

You criticize others about irrelevant grammatical errors and yet, you use the wrong spelling for “sow”. How humorous. You may want to be a little more careful about your comments and the condescending tone that results from your selection of words.

Same goes for your blog.

Cassandra

November 21st, 2011 at 12:15 pm

ewww.. that was nasty. You hug your kids with those hands that typed those words.. ick.

laisdfj

May 9th, 2011 at 7:26 pm

I searched and found this article while trying so hard to study in the library and these idiots are talking so loudly. My day was so wonderful and it just came crashing down once they started talking. This same scenario happened about a week ago too… so I need to not let it happen.

Listing what I’m grateful for…. now.

tarmale

May 26th, 2011 at 8:37 pm

I get this way too! I truly hate when people don’t comply and make up their own rules and end up making my day miserable.

megamalow

May 17th, 2011 at 11:43 pm

your so right it ain’t even worth getting angry over thats an admission of caring too much, successful people don’t care about nothing but themselves I’m saving this site for the next time.

Mandy

July 5th, 2011 at 2:52 pm

You have it backwards,,,successful people don’t just care about nothing but themselves. It is the unsuccessful that deal with stress by reacting irrational and that is actually very selfish..because the reaction is usually due to people inconviencing them and thier immediate comfort level.(which makes it about them, the me me me attitude) You are right that it is not worth getting angry over. The key is to care enough about yourself to stay in control and develop better behavior patterns by trying to focus on the positive. ( like finding the best in any given situation) Sorry, I just didn’t see how you got “successful people don’t care about nothing but themselves” out of reading this article.

BT White

September 3rd, 2011 at 7:59 am

Actually it depends on what your definition of successful is. If it’s money, then I’ll be honest most of the people I’ve seen with much money are pretty oblivious to others’ plight. Even though they may seem otherwise. I once told a friend about how people in my hometown had just gotten taxes raised by 33% in one year, and she said “oh, they should learn to count their blessings we pay [10x as much] each year.” So I told her about the fact that her husband earns something in the order of 15 times as much as the most wealthy person in my hometown, and that regardless the wealthy still have to deal with the same prices for food. Meaning that proportionally, the person earning 15 times less pays about 10 times more of their income on food, clothes, etc. She had no clue what I was talking about. And she’s someone you would expect to get it right away…for all of her “charitable” activities. But hey, why do you think that whenever there’s a disaster, the wealthy are asking the less-wealthy for money to throw at the problem? Because they’re clueless.

Munch

May 31st, 2011 at 7:47 pm

Just want to say that this article was a fantastic read. I won’t lie that I used to be a very angry person, especially in my late teens and early 20′s. I learned personally that to overcome all this was to change my lifestyle by keeping active, reading books and persuing further education. I am not out of the woods yet but I can safely say that changing my attitude to negative events that have happened in my life has made me a better person.

Getting angry with myself simply made me my own worst enemy. I used to remember all those who bullied me at school, those who gave me hard times on the streets etc and go into my room getting pissed off remembering all those bad events. But, as this article said, I was only hurting myself. I can also guarantee my tormentors would never give me a thought. Why should I give these people that satisfaction?

On my road to recovery, I learned to solve this problem by sitting back and looking back in my life and going to the root of what made me that type of person. When I got to that root of the problem, it became a weight off my mind. Forgive those who wronged you. If you get a parking fine, pay it and forget it. If someone owes you a bit of money from 10 years ago, forget that debt because now you know you won’t lend that person money again.

I can go on and on but I will end up being boring. Life is what you make it and I want my time on this planet to be a happy experience. Enjoy your life. There are things that are not worth beating yourself up over.

Irsh

May 31st, 2011 at 8:01 pm

Munch. love a loads. enjoy life.

Little White Lie

December 5th, 2011 at 1:22 am

I can definitely relate to this, and I myself also find myself randomly getting worked up about some bullying that happened a decade past.

It might not be possible to ever forget something, but at the very least I can mindfully change the negativity into a learning reflection, before I move on to larger tasks at hand.

Muneeba

February 3rd, 2012 at 6:07 am

loved wat u rote …. hpe ur copin well wid things…. i cn relate tht a lil bt totally undrstnd whre ur cumin frm !!!

igene orhen

June 2nd, 2011 at 1:20 am

this really an eye opener for me as I wanted to have my online and physical business soon. thank you so much

marc st.lot

June 4th, 2011 at 3:51 am

A special thanks go out to you brian, i used to get mad at everybody around me family,friend, even my girlfriend, ect… i searched for ” why i feel so much of a problem to those around me after spending just a few second on your site. i finally find the answer, on how to work out my relationship with my family and friends and everybody else around me cause i was getting tired of hurting myself.

BT White

September 3rd, 2011 at 8:03 am

You could also start paying more attention to grammatical issues, like first person personal pronoun useage…I (me)…is always capitalized in English.

charles

June 6th, 2011 at 6:12 pm

thanks man you helped me a lot so thanks.

hey

July 23rd, 2011 at 3:15 pm

“After all, primitive mankind would have had to walk this distance. You get to SIT in an air conditioned chair barely pushing the accelerator.”

BT White

September 3rd, 2011 at 8:05 am

Yeah, and primitive man even had to make up his own quotes.

bobby

July 23rd, 2011 at 3:16 pm

“After all, primitive mankind would have had to walk this distance. You get to SIT in an air conditioned chair barely pushing the accelerator.”

BT White

September 3rd, 2011 at 8:06 am

Yeah, and primitive man even had to make up his own original quotes.

gen Park

July 30th, 2011 at 12:41 pm

Thanks for the great artical! I recently had some issues with girls in my work place, I found myself angry with them and angry with everyday living. I was in such a sad misserable rutt! My husbund said to me i should better myself by not letting them get to me, Wow was that an eye opener, the next day i went to work and i felt like a different, stronger, Happeir person.
I hope i can only remember to stay incontrol next time when things frustrate me :)
This world would be a much happier place if we could control our rationality

BT White

September 3rd, 2011 at 8:08 am

To really empower you, your husband should tell you to work on your spelling and grammar.

If people judge us for the way we react to things, they also judge us for the way we present our ideas. Presenting ideas with poor spelling is a sure way for it to lose impact.

Kim

October 18th, 2011 at 12:24 am

BT, people are here to learn about themselves and feel better about themselves, not to learn English spelling or grammar. Your criticism isn’t helping.

DPIZZLE

August 11th, 2011 at 9:26 pm

great article! fully agree, and will refer to it in the future when i find myself victimizing my “self”. Thanks!

Jessica

August 21st, 2011 at 11:12 pm

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August 29th, 2011 at 2:31 pm

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ruth

September 2nd, 2011 at 9:44 am

Thank u wise words and I so needed to put a positive angle on things- going to try to use this more

amir

September 13th, 2011 at 10:45 am

Thank you very very much for this! I feel so much relief now. I never thought how “reactive” I am on small things. Just now I get pissed off because my work colleague delaying signing my leave form. (I’m not gonna tell you more about this coz thats make me like a total idiot LOL)

gosh, I realize now that I’m just hurting myself. I need to be PROactive!

Thanks again. ;)

ringstinger

September 13th, 2011 at 6:54 pm

i fink this is a grate site , i love it know when i get back to my car and it has a dent in the door i fink whoever done that is grate and i want to go up to them and kiss them ,i fink i are getting better already

Ashley

September 14th, 2011 at 11:43 am

Oh my God! I’ve been getting counselling about some issues re: the above topic. If only I read this sooner I probably would’ve saved so much cash. Thank you for so much clarity! Very insightful information

Evie

September 15th, 2011 at 12:54 am

Hi, Thanks so much for this it REALLY helped me. I have a huge problem with letting little thing get to me. To sum it u, my Life is pretty plan Jane (I am currently in the process of changing that) I tend to freak out a lot over things that normal people would not even raise an eyebrow too.

Like one time I got a paper cut and it freaked me out so much that I fainted. This happens a lot…if I get upset enough I just cant take it, and than I just pass out.

It’s because I care way to much about everything. So even the littlest things could bring me to tears….like I can’t even watch the news and hear about people dying(people I don’t even know) without holding back tears! I care about myself too…But I constantly think I never do anything right and I am not good enough at anything. So I appear confident and happy but inside I am a complete mess.

I spend most of my time at home so When I go out I am trying to be happy and not be upset ….I feel like I am under a lot of stress all the time, so anything else just is TO MUCH. I was thinking maybe I have an anxiety problem? Any ideas?

AMO420

October 27th, 2011 at 6:27 pm

I feel the same way. But it is this negative self talk that is hurting us and causing us to care way to much about how others preceive us. You need to worry and focus on what makes you happy at least that is what I am trying to do not worry so much about whatever anyone thinks about me. People are jerks and a lot of the time only care about themselves. I have anxeity too but I am trying to fight against it without pills. I try to always remember this saying:

When I look back on all these worries, I remember the story of the old man who said on his deathbed that he had had a lot of trouble in his life, most of which had never happened.
- Winston Churchill

I am no expert and I have the same issues just wanted to share from someone else that is struggling with the same issues. Good luck!

carole tee

September 19th, 2011 at 5:32 am

I love this attitude..and it is so correct!

We really need to focus on what’s important, and none of that includes silly, every-day annoying, tiny, petty, foul things.

Live everyday with pleasure and no bother.

Carole Tee

Dexter

September 22nd, 2011 at 2:16 am

I found this to be helpful, but how do I keep these things in mind and try to maintain control of my temper? I run into the pettiest little shit everyday and I get so enraged for no reason at all, I have such a short fuse and anger just takes ahold of me, it makes me feel crazy. I understand how crazy I might look, but how do I reassure my own self I don’t need to be mad at unnecessary times??

Dick Chilson

November 1st, 2011 at 5:17 pm

I am with you on this. It is all well and good to know that when you blow up like Vesuvius that you make yourself look like an ass, but the real question is, how do you make yourself maintain control just before you go off? If I could do that I wouldn’t find myself looking at this kind of site at all.

So fine, I know how it looks. My question is, how do I stop looking like this; how do I keep myself from blowing up just before it happens?

Hurtfulsplash

December 8th, 2011 at 4:08 pm

Practice. If you practice these tips before you get so angry it’s easier to do when you need them.

Little White Lie

December 5th, 2011 at 1:30 am

This may be a more feminine problem, but with hormonal imbalances women can have mood swings. It’s not an excuse, but a plausible explanation.

That said, I recall an incident where I did get overly worked up about something, and to this day it embarrasses me because I was simply not myself.

Since then, I’ve found medication to help me stabilize my hormone levels as well as to lower my PMS, so I can recognize when my reactions may be hormonal, versus a rational reaction to a problem. Knowing the difference also helps with establishing self-control.

diva

September 25th, 2011 at 10:45 pm

This site helped me deal with everyday stresses.I was lettin small issues and people upset me to the point I would cry.I realized I was only hurting myself.thank god I got past that point in my life.

k venugopal kumarasamy

September 26th, 2011 at 12:35 pm

i was on my bike and arrived at a T-junction. All of a sudden the rain blasted me. i panicked and tried to put my raincoat on. it was done merely in a few seconds. they car behind hooted at me. it startled me. i move aside and that driver crossed me. i was cool but when i took a glimpse of that driver’s ugly look at me, the wire in my head snaps! what mistake have i done? it was not that long. i was not blocking the traffic.

k venugopal kumarasamy

September 26th, 2011 at 12:43 pm

i was on my bike and came to a T-junction. all of a sudden, the rain blasted me. i was panicked and try to get my raincoat into my arms. the car behind me hooted. it startled me! he was angry, i knew. what have i done? maybe he was angry that i block the road. omg! it was only few seconds. i was cool at first but then when i saw his ugly face, one of the wire in my head snaps! i chased that driver. he stopped at a shop. i passed him and make a u-turn abt. 100 metres away from him. he saw me staring at him. i showed him my middle finger and left the scene. he was trying to reverse to chase me but i am gone.

after reading this article i felt what i did was useless. i felt ashamed of myself now. thank you sir for your valuable guidance.

John Hollie

September 30th, 2011 at 2:30 pm

iwus upset at a teacher nd u helped me

October 3rd, 2011 at 4:15 am

So I wasn’t impressed by your article, it didn’t make me actually feel better about the little things that pile up in my life. I feel like any time I start to get ahead, something else sets me back. I’ll start to get ahead financially and put money in my savings and then I’ll need a $500 car repair. Of course, you could argue that at least I had the money in the first place. The little things wear you down over time.

I’ve noticed that when terrible things do happen, I tend to handle them much better than the minutiae of everyday life. Bad events actually put the little things in perspective. Perhaps this is why volunteering to help those less fortunate is such a successful strategy for dealing with depression.

The part that actually did make me feel better was when you started correcting the grammatical and spelling errors in the comments. So thank you for the laugh, humor sometimes is the best medicine.

Little White Lie

December 5th, 2011 at 1:06 am

I understand that frustration, and I agree that even the smallest of stressors can erode your patience and happiness over time.

It is always a good idea to look at things positively, but at times it is prudent to be realistic and see where your problems are.

I took this article more as an aid to deal with how I perceive the inconveniences presented by immature morons in my life. I’ve tried time and time again to forget it, but I hold really long grudges and I have an excellent memory. In an effort to STOP their bombardment, I’ve also patiently tried to help them see the wisdom of growing up.

This article showed me: Just who am I kidding?

I can’t save them. If they can’t save themselves and get hurt because they did not bother to grow a strong foundation against the storms of complications, I cannot be called a murderer.

I think the emphasis here is on picking your battles wisely. You’ve lost money due to unfortunate circumstances? Accept that it is rather inconvenient and sets you back, but try to learn something from your loss (is it time to find a car that costs less to maintain? If it was a car accident, can you have found a lawyer to help get more money back from the accident?) so it doesn’t come back and trip you up again.

The scars from the fights you’ve braved make you stronger than another person, but at times it is wise to decide whether some things are worth getting a scar over.

JAckie

October 4th, 2011 at 2:23 pm

I got mad at someone cause they ate all my nutella. It was bullshit, i was saving it for my birthday cause i was gonna celebrate it all by myself with just some nutella. Your site helped me get over that easily. I realized i was just hurting myself eating fatty nutella. You made me realized jello is better yum!

SuperSenyorita

October 15th, 2011 at 11:54 am

I can totally relate. Someone hurt really bad just recently and I got so angry with him and myself for letting him hurt me. I started posting mopey and angry stuff on facebook and twitter even when i know how lame and pathetic they make me look like.

I’ve had enough. I don’t want to look like an idiot anymore, I just want to forgive and forget about and move on with my life. I want him to regret ever hurting me and the best way I can think of is to move on and live happily!

Little White Lie

December 5th, 2011 at 1:37 am

I know someone who still does what you used to do, and I am glad that you see the sense in stopping it.

A lot of people forget that vengeance does very little tangible for yourself, and “getting back at someone” for doing well does not mean you will succeed in life. That said, there is no need to forgive him: You don’t really want to give him a second chance, right? So don’t.

I think the phrase “forgive and forget” isn’t really accurate, since everything that you go through becomes a learning experience. It is important to remember all of the bad things that happened in life, so you can learn from it so it does not happen again.

Noe

October 15th, 2011 at 10:48 pm

I just found the solution to all my problems

smriti

October 18th, 2011 at 2:10 pm

hey..i was feeling too low.. coz d day didnt go that well! must say m thankful to u , coz ur article helped b optimistic in things…

smriti

October 18th, 2011 at 2:10 pm

hey..i was feeling too low.. coz d day didnt go that well! must say m thankful to u , coz ur article helped me b optimistic about things…

Laura

October 18th, 2011 at 9:47 pm

Great article – was annoyed with someone at today. After reading this i feel a whole lot better, thanks:)

Jose Tacobender

October 20th, 2011 at 11:31 pm

write a story when you work a real job you get harassed at, get stalked online and in life, and are with someone who puts people ahead of you that do absolutely do nothing for her but drag her down.

Marla

October 23rd, 2011 at 7:07 pm

Greetings. Just recently read this after realizing that I led the most ridiculous things bother me and I wanted to know how to just stop and get over it. You’re completely right, and I never thought of any of these steps of getting over pretty much nothing.

I’ll try to incorporate these tips you have given me into my daily routine. I thank you much.

x, Marla

Maplemom1

November 21st, 2011 at 4:33 pm

@ SuperSeniorita (above) – I felt the same way!!! – I wanted to be all mopy and pissed off on Facebook too, but I thought how stupid and childish of me.

Yes, I want to get back at this person for hurting my feelings. I have no choice but to move on. I am generally a very optimistic person and can realate to all of the comments above. I usually try to look at the positive and fix the problem in a way that it benefits me and fixes the situation. I find a solution.

BUT! …. –> My problem is that I find people in general are letting me down a lot, more frequently!!!! Not just a chance incounter with a stranger but family and friends. It’s mushrooming. How do you move on after being hit too many times. It can’t be me because I don’t go around the world trying to hurt people or piss them off. Is it the climate that we are in? I need more strength to move on.

The above are great comments and it’s important to be optimistic – I am starting to beleive that the nice people are all gone and I know that can’t be true. Maybe I need to change the environment I am in to change my carma ?????? any suggestions…..

how to get over someone

November 23rd, 2011 at 10:25 pm

some excellent points here thank you a lot for sharing.

December 1st, 2011 at 11:44 am

I don’t know how to be happy any more. Iuse to be so confident and i don’t know what happened. Sometimes i am and sometimes i don’t know how to be. I have run out of answers. I feel like i’m just not welcome in most situations , or i feel like i’m just not apart of society sometimes.

Prada Outlet

December 2nd, 2011 at 2:10 am

I cannot wait to read more of this article,you gave me some new ideas. Thank Auther for having teached me something, I have learnt from you something. It is so unbelievble. Very good very impressive performance.

Prada Outlet Online

December 2nd, 2011 at 2:12 am

The comic strip is tasteful, your authored subject matter stylish. It makes me feel life is very rich,so I spend a lot of these articles. This is exactly what I was looking for,I have not figured out how to subscribe.

Little White Lie

December 5th, 2011 at 1:17 am

{I thought twice against posting this, but I believe it provides a very good example of how I first “let a pissy thing get to me” followed by “how I let a pissy thing go,” so readers can see an example of me troubleshooting a minor inconvenience}

Hello BT.

I was trying to ignore your “Well-Placed English Lessons for the Day”, because they were extremely irrelevant. In addition, the person who made the “crime” of a few typos likely will not see your replies, and the fact that you’re retaliating means that it bothers you. BT, -you’re- not letting go of the small, stupid stuff in life.

Unfortunately, I am also not well-versed in letting go of all of the tiny annoyances in life. So, after one too many of these irritating comments from you, I felt the impulse to react to this. Though, case in point, you will likely not see this (point #2) and I already feel like an idiot for typing this (point #1). While my judgment of your behavior may be right, you’re likely too narrow-minded to change yourself. Furthermore, I do not love you enough to invest my quality time into making you a better person.

I will now follow this article’s advice by listing all of the things I am grateful for (point #3). I am grateful for my ability to focus on the main point. Contrasting myself from you, BT, I realized that while you agonized over small grammatical errors, I was able to actually learn and celebrate with the people who replied to this article: how reading this article affects their viewpoints, how other related problems may affect them, and what are some unique solutions to daily annoyances. I am also grateful for cultivating an open mind, so I am receptive that for some of these posters, English may not be their primary language. For others, they may come from different educational backgrounds or they’re typing from a phone (as I am now). At the very least, they are making an effort to share their experiences so the rest of us may learn.

With this, I am also grateful that this insolence was one of the first distasteful things I saw this morning, and with this, I now have a character building exercise in not letting your condescending attitude affect the rest of my day.

I will note that your other non-grammar related responses have proved insightful and offered unique viewpoints, and such commentary is far more useful than the highly annoying ones regarding grammar and spelling. I value correct spelling and grammar because it makes for easier reading, but I am also intelligent enough to be capable of piecing together what they are trying to convey in their messages.

i now go has best day of mai life, tank u very much. :-)

Hurtfulsplash

December 8th, 2011 at 4:13 pm

Great comment. LOL

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December 5th, 2011 at 3:37 am

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December 23rd, 2011 at 4:13 am

what a bunch of idiotic bullshit. you tell people not to complain, call them idiots for doing so, and then you write a huge article complaining about those people. what’s the point?

Sean

January 16th, 2012 at 3:30 pm

Good write-up! It gives a straightforward answer to a straightforward question, and people either get it or they don’t : )

Madz

January 21st, 2012 at 10:25 am

I really enjoyed the article! And as much as the analogies of the traffic and parking tickets etc. are relevant to me, it was a more personal matter that brought me here! I guess you could call it ‘trying to find approval from others’ which is so silly, I know! And I let people’s opinions affect me so so much!! And I really do allow myself to become a victim and let it become way worse than it is… if it’s anything at all! So reading through this blog and repeating “these things happen” and wanting to be more proactive is great! So, thanks! Heaps!!

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February 3rd, 2012 at 6:25 am

Thanks for posting so nice article.can’t stop myselt coming back to this website to learn more.

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